Give yourself time to grieve if you need to, but then “build a bridge” by actively doing what you need to to move on. Then walk over the bridge to the other side and live your new life.
Don’t give up. Though everyone fails again and again it is true that success doesn’t come without failure. In fact if success comes to easily we should be suspicious. The times we fall down hurt but each time we get up we get stronger. If we never fall down we get spoilt and too proud, so be happy about your failures they make you human.
Though I don’t think forgetting is such a good idea forgiving certainly is! If we don’t forgive those who’ve wronged us we will be carrying a lot of bitterness. Bitterness doesn’t harm the person we hold a grudge against it only harms ourselves. So heartfelt sincere forgiveness is such a gift to yourself — it fosters a sense of lightness and, well … happiness!
Yes! It isn’t a defeat to let go. It is the wisest thing we can do if “things cannot be”.
I think spilled milk here means misfortune. And more than that misfortune about which we can do nothing. After all, the only thing to do when milk is spilled is to clean it up. If a misfortune that we can’t fix befalls us the only thing to do is adapt and keep moving on. We can clean up and we can cry over it too, but crying does no good, really. It just adds a extra level of difficulty to the misfortune and might even prevent us from dealing with it the best we can.
This goes well with the “fall down seven times, stand up eight” quote above. If you have difficulties as long as you get up again and again after them you will learn and get stronger. It goes with the whole idea of “testing your mettle” and “paying your dues”.